Please note this blog was written weeks ago, before Bruce Jenner came out as her, Caitlyn Jenner.
I watched Bruce Jenner’s interview with Diane Sawyer a few weeks ago and right away wanted to write a blog about it. But – I resisted. The online community was a jungle the next day. Opinions flying right and left. I decided to let it be. It wasn’t until this morning that I decided to watch Part I of his story on the Keeping up with the Kardashians show. All the emotions and words started to find their way back to me during this. What I pushed back came back and I had to write this. I had to.
First off, there is no way I come even close to knowing what he feels, what his family feels, and what his world is turning into at this very moment. I am just catching what I felt watching him and listening to his words. I am only interpreting what I learned. If you don’t agree, that’s fine. We are all different on this earth; isn’t that what makes it so beautiful? That no bird’s song ever sounds the same, that photographs can never be duplicated, that every soul is unique.
Life is too short to live someone else’s life. I think at some point in all of our lives we try and become someone we are not. It could start as early as childhood. Sometimes we change ourselves to fit in with everyone else; sometimes we just want to make our parents happy or our spouse so we put their needs ahead of ours. I’m not saying that’s a terrible thing to do because I think Bruce came into his children’s life for a reason. They needed a father figure and he became that for them. He admitted his children were his biggest accomplishments. But like he said, they are all successful and have now flown from the nest with a strong set of wings. His job is done. It is now time to work on himself. At some point you can’t live your life that way anymore. At some point everything catches up to you and you have to face it. You can’t push it away all your life. You have to decide whom you are going to live your life for. Are you going to live it for you or are you going to live it for everyone else? “I lived my entire life running away from me. My whole life I haven’t been myself”.
“I’m so tired of lying, it just wears you out”.
What if you wake up some day and you’re 65 and you think about all those years you were so focused on perfection and pleasing others that you forgot to live your life? It’s going to break your heart. I think we all need to stop trying to be “normal”. I think the point of life is to be real. Live with sincerity; do not try and fit into some standard of what a human being should be. Be honest to yourself.
I have seen people marry for the wrong reasons and live a life full of unhappiness. I have seen people deny their sexual preferences and try and prove that they are something they aren’t. I have seen people go to the school their parents want them to attend or register for a program they aren’t passionate about. I see people working a job they struggle to wake up in the morning for. All for what?
Believe in your voice. Fight for that voice inside of you. Fight for that life you have always wanted. Do not doubt that soul blooming inside of you. You can live any life that you create. Anyone of us can. “Live the most amazing life”. I hope you always remember who you are and that you never let go of the parts of you that make you unique. You only have one shot, one chance on this stage of life. Don’t go up there with a painted face. Don’t be afraid; be brave. Don’t worry about messing up a hundred times, don’t worry about not getting it right the first time. ‘You can never do this right. There is no right way to do this’.
You are the most beautiful when you are happy.
“For what it’s worth: it’s never too late or, in my case, too early to be whoever you want to be. There’s no time limit, stop whenever you want. You can change or stay the same; there are no rules to this thing. We can make the best or the worst of it. I hope you make the best of it. And I hope you see things that startle you. I hope you feel things you never felt before. I hope you meet people with a different point of view. I hope you live a life you’re proud of. If you find that you’re not, I hope you have the courage to start all over again.” – Eric Roth.
It is never too late to be exactly who you want to be.