“For a star to be born, there is one thing that must happen: a nebula must collapse. So collapse. Crumble. This is not your destruction. This is your birth”.
We all want something out of life. A good job, an education, a lifelong partner, children, a home, a dog… It can be anything. We all have goals and dreams. So how do you get what you want? How do you get from point A to point B without any kind of map telling you where to go?
I know fear plays the biggest role in what you do and what you don’t. What if things don’t work out? When we are afraid, we pull back. We might have passion but the fear of imperfections hold us back and we are left with nothing to create. We don’t show up. We don’t work and it defeats us. Maybe you’re afraid of judgement? Something different means standing out. Someone’s opinion of you is not your reality. The truth is, it’s just you out there. There is no one else. They don’t exist, they never did. Your life is entirely up to you. “I can do this, even if nobody sees it in me. I have to see it for myself”. Nobody can steal your dream.
There comes a time where you have to learn to stop trying to get everything right for the rest of your life. You have to stop coming up with all kinds of excuses as to why you can’t become something: money, family, education, opinions… it’s a force that is holding you back. Let me tell you something. You are not broken. There is nothing about you that needs to be fixed. Your dreams are not to fix you – they are to reveal you.
If you have a dream, you know in order to achieve it something has to change. The course you are on isn’t going to take you to where you want to be. But to change can be scary because it requires so much courage. Your dreams are earned by what you do every single day. It won’t come easy- you have to earn it.
I know it’s hard. It’s not easy. But it’s life changing. Life is not about comfort. It is about growing. That means stepping on that unsteady path; the one with tremendous uncertainty. You will have a lot of disappointment, pain, and failure. You are going to doubt yourself. A curveball will come. It always does. Why me? None of us go through life unscratched. We all have moments where it feels like a force is against us. Everything going wrong all at once. But you see, you must allow yourself to have a greater perspective. You cannot just give up. Be the dreamer that fought through – not the one that never made it. As we mature, we start to understand that sometimes our setbacks were our greatest gifts. That difficult times challenged us – to feel and be the most that we could.
Follow your heart. Life has a special kind of meaning. Find your value. Make it. You will always want an answer for everything. It’s just the way our brain works. But don’t forget about your heart because if you forget your heart, you will forget how to live. You will think your entire life away. Your heart knows the way. I promise you.
There will always be guidance, even in the midst of chaos. Take your life one day at a time. And don’t get caught in fear. Keep moving. Don’t stop growing, don’t stop stretching, and don’t stop pushing yourself. Your dreams are important. Focus on them. Grow into who you are meant to be.
This blog was written a few days after Robin Williams sadly passed away. It was inspired by his quote in Jack, per below:
“Please, don’t worry so much. Because in the end, none of us have very long on this earth. Life is fleeting. And if you’re ever distressed, cast your eyes to the summer sky when the stars are strung across the velvety night. And when a shooting star streaks through the blackness, turning night into day… make a wish and think of me. Make your life spectacular. I know I did.”